The Play Patterns Method:

A COURSE TO ⁠SEE BENEATH YOUR CHILD’S BEHAVIOUR. UNDERSTAND THEIR NERVOUS SYSTEM AND KNOW HOW TO HOLD THEM THROUGH EVERY MOMENT.

Join Children’s Counsellor Eleanor Mann and Breathworker Emma Johnston as we finally Understand the four patterns that shape how your child moves through the world and what to do when they can't find their way back.

🗓 We close our doors Monday 29th June 7pm AEST

🎥 6 Months Access to Replay 

⭐️LIFETIME Access to Modules

Parents tell us every day:

“I understand my child... but I still don't know what to do when things tip over.”

Understanding is one thing.
Knowing what to DO at 7am, 6pm, or mid-meltdown is another.

The Four Play Patterns

Every child has a pattern — a way their nervous system naturally moves when they feel safe.
You see it most clearly in play.

• Power Play — the child who needs to feel impact, build big, crash hard, test edges

• Perfect Play — the child who watches, helps, keeps things nice, monitors connection

• Busy Play — the child who flits, fizzes, moves constantly, struggles to land

• Quiet Play — the child who goes inward, watches from the edges, has a rich inner world

When you can see the pattern, you stop trying to make them someone they’re not — and finally understand what’s actually going on.

 Play = Visiting and Returning

A regulated child doesn’t stay calm all day.
They move — through power, stillness, movement, and connection — and then they return.

They get loud… and soften.
They scatter… and land.
They go quiet… and emerge.
They let others choose… and then say, “Actually, I want the red one.”

This movement is regulation.

But sometimes they can’t find their way back.

That’s when:

• Power Play becomes the Explosive Child

• Busy Play becomes the Anxious Child

• Quiet Play becomes the Dreamy Child

• Perfect Play becomes the Golden Child

This is when play becomes stress.
This is when they need you most.

Understanding Is the First Step — This Is the Rest of the Map

You might already sense your child’s patterns.
But does that understanding help you:

→ At 7am when they won’t get dressed?
→ At 6pm when everyone’s exhausted and someone hits someone?
→ At bedtime when it’s been two hours?
→ When nothing you say is landing?

Understanding is one thing.
Knowing what to DO is another.

This course is the practical part.

This course is for you if:

✓ You want to understand what’s underneath behaviour
✓ You see the patterns but don’t know what to do when things tip
✓ You want boundaries without battles
✓ You’re tired of theory that doesn’t help in real life
✓ You want tools that work in the moment
✓ You want to repair when things fall apart — without shame

A Few Important Clarifications

This isn’t about being gentler.
It’s about being safe and solid.

This isn’t about scripts.
It’s about understanding why things work, so you can adapt in real time.

This isn’t just about your child.
It includes you — because you’re 50% of every interaction.

 What You'll Learn (5 Modules + Live Sessions)

Module 1: Play Patterns

Learn how to see your child’s natural regulation style in everyday moments — not just during crises.

You’ll learn:

• The four play patterns and how they show up in real life

• How to read your child’s nervous system through play

• How energy naturally rises, peaks, releases, and settles

• What regulation actually looks like (hint: it’s not constant calm)

• How patterns shift across environments — home vs school, morning vs bedtime

This module changes how you see your child immediately.

Module 2: Stress Archetypes & Boundaries

When a child can’t find their way back from play, they move into stress.

Power Play becomes the Explosive Child
Busy Play becomes the Anxious Child
Quiet Play becomes the Dreamy Child
Perfect Play becomes the Golden Child

You’ll learn:

• The difference between play and stress — and why it matters

• How timing changes everything

• Why the same boundary can land beautifully or backfire completely

• What boundaries actually work for each archetype:

  • Explosive: solid without fighting

  • Golden: warm without rescuing

  • Anxious: movement first, then boundary

  • Dreamy: slow, soft, patient connection

This module gives you clarity in moments that usually spiral.

Module 3: Repair & Reconnection

Because rupture is part of relationship — and repair is where safety is built.

You’ll learn:

• What repair actually looks like for each archetype

• When repair lands — and when it makes things worse

• How to reconnect after big ruptures

• The difference between repair and reassurance

• How to move forward without shame or over-explaining

Repair stops being scary — and becomes something you trust.

Module 4: YOUR Nervous System

Your child’s behaviour doesn’t happen in isolation.

You’ll learn:

• Why certain behaviours activate you more than others

• What’s happening in your body when things escalate

• How your pattern meets your child’s pattern

• Why you lose access to everything you “know” in the heat of the moment

This module is often the missing piece for parents.

Module 5: Why “Staying Calm” Doesn’t Work

Trying to stay calm isn’t regulation — and your child can feel the difference.

You’ll learn:

• The myth of calm vs real presence

• Why performed calm often escalates behaviour

• What your child’s nervous system actually responds to

• What regulation really looks like in real families

This module removes pressure — and replaces it with clarity.

LIVE Session with Emma & Eleanor

3 x 30 minute live calls:
8am AEST on Wednesday 1st of July and Friday 3rd of July.
6pm AEST on Sunday 5th of July.

6 months access to replays.

Bring the moments you’re stuck in.

• Real scenarios

• Hot seats

• Your questions answered

• Practical nervous-system guidance you can use immediately

Replay included.

By the end of this course, you’ll be able to:

• See your child’s nervous system clearly in everyday moments

• Catch stress early — before it explodes or shuts down

• Hold boundaries that feel safe instead of threatening

• Repair when things fall apart — without it becoming a bigger rupture

• Parent with confidence instead of constant self-doubt

This isn’t about making your child “behave.”
It’s about helping them return to safety — again and again.

Already have Reconnected Parenting?

This is the perfect place to begin.

It builds the nervous-system lens, language, and everyday skills that make the deeper work land — and immediately changes your day-to-day.

FAQ

I've done your webinars. Is this repetition?

The patterns are reviewed briefly as foundation. Everything else goes much deeper - the stress archetypes, boundaries by archetype, real scenarios, repair for each pattern, plus Modules 4 & 5 which are entirely new content.

I'm brand new - can I follow?

Yes. Module 1 teaches the patterns from the ground up. You'll have everything you need.

How long do I have access?

Lifetime. Go at your own pace.

When is the live session?

8am AEST on Wednesday 1st of July and Friday 3rd of July.
6pm AEST on Sunday 5th of July.
Replay available if you can't make it live.

What ages does this cover?

Toddlers through teens. The patterns are universal - examples span all ages.

What about neurodivergent kids?

The nervous system framework applies to all kids. Many parents find it especially helpful for understanding their ADHD, autistic, or sensory-sensitive children. It's not a replacement for specialist support - it works alongside it.

What's the difference between this and Reconnected Parenting?

This course teaches you to SEE your child's nervous system and gives you practical tools for everyday moments - the play patterns, the stress archetypes, boundaries that land, repair when you mess up.